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Rainbow Baby

5/15/2022

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Infant Feeding is a Feminist Issue #breakthebias

3/7/2022

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Picture“Slave Nursing White Baby, Envelope 2,” 1861–1865. John A. McCallister Collection: Civil War Envelopes (Library Company of Philadelphia, Philadelphia, Pa.)
How we feed our babies should be a personal decision, but as women we are often not enabled, informed or respected enough when it comes to making these choices. This often leaves us sad and confused, fighting the ‘mummy wars’ instead of the structures which led us here in the first place.

To some extent, groups of women have always been oppressed by the way they feed their babies and class and ethnicity have exacerbated inequalities. In eighteenth century England the reproductive labour of lower class wet nurses was exploited as they put aside their own infants in order to serve the wealthy. Whilst in America, enforced wet nursing by slave owners provided a unique form of exploitation which still impacts breastfeeding rates amongst Black American women today. 

Shame has long been used as a punishment for women, to keep them in their place and to preserve patriarchal order. The mum who reaches for the bottle after being told that ‘breast is best’ feels the same sense of shame as the mum who secretly feeds her 2 year old because ‘he doesn’t need it now’. Pressure to breastfeed without adequate support or accurate advice and mixed messages about feeding for long enough but not ‘too long’, with no support for weaning, leads to tensions between formula feeders and breast feeders and detracts from the real issue of the structures that bind us. 

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Breasts function as mammary glands but we are surrounded by messages telling us to cover up and be discreet when breastfeeding. Although protected by law, women are still shamed for exercising their right to breastfeed in public and called exhibitionists. Debates on television, in newspapers and social media insult women calling them 'lactivists' for using their own bodies as they wish. This shaming of women for breastfeeding in public, in turn limits their use of public spaces. This is in contrast to the sexualised advertising which suggests breasts exists solely for the satisfaction of men and as an indicator of attractiveness. There is no shaming of the women in the Wonderbra adverts, for that is deemed an appropriate showing of flesh. Even though much more is shown than a woman breastfeeding an infant. As women we must ask. Who is this serving? What part are we playing in keeping this status quo alive? Who is saying what is an acceptable female body?

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Infant feeding occurs in the context of a myriad of gender inequalities which include lack of support, the loss of traditional knowledge passed on from woman to woman over centuries, the sexualization of breasts, public aversion to breastfeeding, fewer women in public spaces, and the medicalisation of female bodies. 

​These issues are heightened at the intersection of multiple areas of discrimination such as ethnicity or class and gender which is demonstrated by shorter breastfeeding duration.  It is time for women recognise that however they feed their babies, these structures affect them and their right to choose. To break the bias, we need to fight against a culture of shame and instead fight for support, respect and information for our bodies and our choices. 

Dr Lyndsay Poore 
with thanks to Aayesha Bhattay. ​
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Catie's Breastfeeding Chronicle

3/2/2022

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Blissful Breastfeeding

2/22/2022

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Read more of The Chronicles of Breastfeeding here. Get support and help with breastfeeding here. 
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2/9/2022

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1/21/2022

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Breastfeeding Chronicles

12/30/2021

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Three of our Mammas Ambassadors Iffat, Katerina and Pia began a project to collect together stories of breastfeeding from our families. These stories are inspirational and have been gathered together in a printed booklet available to buy. You can read some of the collection here on our blog posts. 

We hope you find them supportive, funny and heart-warming. Please send us your story too.

Iffat wrote about how they collated the stories and you can read the whole collection on our campaign pages.  
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Breastfeeding Chronicles

12/30/2021

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Confidence to breastfeed in public

3/26/2021

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As a first time mum, who was pregnant all the way through the Covid 19 lockdown, I felt quite clueless about breast feeding. If it wasn’t for the online sessions and the support from Sally and the Mammas group, I think I would have given up very early on. 

I always wanted to try to breastfeed but I never knew how hard it would actually be. These photos may make my journey look so easy but it wasn’t. I was sore, exhausted and confused for the first 6 weeks. I was given different Information by professionals and even sent to A&E for something that was normal. Being able to go for a walk and leave the house was so important for my mental health during this time but I didn’t walk too far because I was worried about feeding.

There are a lot of opinions and fears about breastfeeding in public. All I have learnt, since being a mummy and from listening to the Mammas, the importance of feeding my baby on demand whenever and wherever she needs. I wouldn’t stop someone from having a glass of water if they were thirsty so why would I stop my baby? So, I started by feeding her outside when no one was around to make sure I could find a comfortable position. I also found wearing a thin nursing top meant I could pull it down but lift my jumper/coat up to make feeding more private. I then moved on to feeding in a cafe and in a sensory play group. Now I will feed her anywhere meaning I can go where I want rather than staying in. 

I hope this blog will help other mums feel more comfortable knowing I was in the same boat. Many of us are now only allowed to meet others outside which means our time as new mums can be very lonely. 

Go for a walk. Feed your baby surrounded by nature. No one will judge you and you are AMAZING! 

Ellen Campbell and Averly; 31 October 2020

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My Struggles with Breastfeeding

3/25/2021

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You would think Breastfeeding would just happen as natural as it is – you would think it would just naturally work – Just put baby on the breast and the baby starts drinking to its full. Well that’s what I thought...
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Until I came to breastfeed my first baby boy. It was tough and challenging.  We didn’t establish Breastfeeding and decided to “quit” after 3 months of combination feeding. That’s why I was even more determined the second time around. Only to find hurdles again…

This is an attempt to help me accept and get some sort of “closure” on why breastfeeding didn’t work for me, but also hopefully to help others on their journey. Some of the challenges we faced (looking back these now seem straightforward and as though I should have sailed through them, but at the time it was a struggle):

* Baby kept on falling asleep. Not just light sleep sometimes but literally every feed would be a struggle.  It felt as though he was in a deep sleep but as soon as I put him down he would wake and start crying as though he was starving. “Tickly his toes”, Blow lightly on his face”, “Leave him in a vest as he may be getting too warm and comfy”, “Lay him on his back” were some of the things that kept propping up when I read about it however having to tackle with this at every feed and over and over was exhausting.

*Baby lost more than the average weight and lost some more the following two visits from the Health Visitor. He wasn’t pooing. Although I was getting plenty of wet nappies.  We were told that if baby did not put on weight by the next visit (in 48 hours) he would be admitted into hospital.  With the Covid situation the thought of going back to hospital with a new born was daunting. Hence, we were under pressure and had to resort to the bottle. We were advised we needed to give 50ml at every feed and I sure was not producing that much from expressing the milk so formula it was! I knew from the first time around that this was a bad decision however at that time it felt like baby’s health Vs my determination to continue Exclusively Breast Feeding. (We tried cup feeding but struggled to get baby to drink) Expressing – Keeping up with the Expressing to compensate for the formula/bottle feeds was hard work. Also, the advice was every time you breast feed express before and after to empty the breast. Or as much as you can. With a demanding toddler, a baby to comfort and limited support in the lockdown we found this tough. Although I tried ‘power pumping’, pumping one-two times during the night after attempting to breastfeed and various times during the day. Compressions - Again this was at every feed. I did feel as though this helped at times.

*Tongue Tie - After seeing that baby was latching on well and it seemed as though he was drinking well, but of course this wasn’t seeming to work, I was referred to the Lactation consultant who confirmed that baby was borderline tongue tie and didn’t recommend division as it was so.  However, after much consideration we decided to go with our instincts and arranged the division with a private practitioner when baby was 4 weeks new.  (We felt as though he had the various symptoms such as baby taking in air and being uncomfortable, clicking sounds, sleeping a lot) Desperate to make it work we went with it.

Baby 4 weeks new - By this time feeding was going okay - we had a plan that we agreed with the consultant. Breast feed and when not satisfied top up with expressed or formula milk. (I never managed to top up with all expressed milk). We found we were topping up at most feeds.

Baby 5 weeks new - Baby’s feeding went the opposite way. He just did not want to feed at the breast. He would retaliate and even bottle feeds were taking a while. At this point I reached out to my health visitor who referred me to the infant feeding team.

Baby 6 weeks new – The Infant Feeding Lead came over when baby turned exactly 6 weeks. And it was such a relief that she could visit given the Covid situation. (This was an absolute help). Advise was even though baby is rejecting keep calm and keep trying. We arranged a new plan. As baby was fussy with feeds now might be a good time to drop the bottles and just offer two bottles a day (morning and evening) the rest to breastfeed.  To my surprise this seemed to work fine for 2-3 days.  I also got to experience the amazing feeling of seeing baby content at one or two feeds without having to top up. Only to find that baby went to completely rejecting the breast screaming and just not having it after that. At this point the bottles came in fast and I kind of said it’s not happening as it was becoming mentally and physically exhausting.  To add to this the trauma of my previous unsuccessful experience of breastfeeding. I persevered (I can do this I’m not giving up I thought) and decided to just offer breast and not bottle but him being so unhappy, screaming and hungry took over.

Baby 8 weeks new – My husband who was amazingly supportive of the whole struggle at this point gave me the final nudge and we decided that was it.  He saw this was having an impact on me and I was an emotional Wreck.  Also, I felt as though I was neglecting my toddler and at 8 weeks, we should have got this right? So, we did what we felt was best for our family.

On reflection having known the below may have helped me continue breastfeeding:

1. Babies are and will be demanding in the first few weeks.  They will be ‘needy’.  If it’s not constant breastfeeding issues it will be something else. Winding issues, gastric, unsettled baby or baby just wants to be with you. Enjoy it. We thought baby was unsettled as he wasn’t getting enough but now that we’re bottle feeding, we still sometimes get the unsettled days.  He bobs on and off the bottle on certain days too as he did with Breastfeeding. So;
2. Having confidence in yourself is key. Knowing it will be okay and it will work out.  For instance, I assumed he just didn’t want the breast as he was used to the bottle but rejecting the breast might be due to other reasons such as blocked nose. (FYI he also does this with the bottle feeds)
3. It’s a struggle for others too.  You’re not the only one. The seemingly endless cluster feeds for instance, is it going to be like this every few weeks? Will my baby need to build up his supply more often as he’s a big baby? Just do it and take each feed as it comes. However far you get is a bonus
4. Go with your own instincts. My instincts said not to top up with bottle at every feed.
5. Don’t worry about the ‘what if’s’. TAKE EACH FEED AS IT COMES, BE PRESENT AND ENJOY IT rather than worrying about how long this will go on for, what if it doesn’t work out, is baby getting enough… I was more worried about not being able to do it rather than just doing it! 
6. Personality plays a big part. RELAX and think POSITIVE know that it will work, and it is working. Be easy on yourself. Given the anxious person I am it was tough.

Some unknowns…
1. Midwife said that her mums that had big babies tend to struggle she didn’t know why? Is it true?
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Had I not given us enough time to cluster feed. He was on me most the time for nearly 3 weeks. I’m sure I used to feed him every hour if not more and some days he was glued to me. Is that normal? 
3. People say their baby feeds every 2 hours how come mine wouldn’t go more than an hour? And why did I not see my baby content. He was either on me drinking /sleeping or crying for more. Was he too busy trying to make the right supply for himself or was it that I didn’t have the right amount and that’s why he wasn’t happy? 
4. Maybe if I had given it another week or two, we would have been better at it?

I still think about it every day longing for breastfeeding to have worked for us. How beautiful it would have been. And how if only I could provide the milk for baby when he wanted without worrying about the temperature of milk, or he’s just had a feed he can’t have another until at least three hours.  Not knowing ‘WHY it didn’t work out’ is the hardest. It worked for other mums why not me? However, I know that I need to accept that I tried my best for our baby, and we decided to do what’s best for our family.

Looking at the bright side I still enjoy the closeness with my baby, we have the skin to skin and lots of cuddles.   

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